Whizin Wonders

Navigating the Relationship Between our Human and our Soul

Words Matter – How To Use Better Feeling Language

Words make us feel good or bad, one or the other.  When we use certain words in our language, they trigger thoughts and emotions around those words, and we are affected by those words, so it’s important to notice the words we use in our language.  

I had a client who, like many of us, was addicted to thinking thoughts that made him feel bad.  I know what that’s like, because I used to think thoughts all the time that made me feel bad.  It takes consciousness to notice, (without judgment) and courage to change. I asked him to list all the words that made him feel bad.  When he began to think about the list, he said he would never talk again, because he used so many words that made him feel bad.  

Just think, when we pluck out particular words in our language that make us feel bad, we are “forced” to use other words that will allow us to feel better. Doesn’t this make sense?

Let’s say you remove the word “worry”, because it is a prayer for something bad to happen.

What good will it do to worry about anything?  You can’t change anything with worry.  You have no control over what is going to happen “out there” worrying about it. Who feels bad?  YOU!  The word itself has a built-in mistrust factor.  It’s especially used for people we love.  But do not be mistaken, worry is not love.  What other word can you replace with the word, “worry”?

What about the word, “should”?  Many people “should” all over themselves and they always feel bad about it.  It’s one of those “set-up” words that make you feel bad. You have heard yourself and others often say they “should” do something, knowing they probably won’t do that something, or “should’ve” done something, or “shouldn’t” have done something, or should visit so and so, knowing they probably won’t visit that person.  Phew, that’s a lot of shoulding! However, you slice it, “should” makes us feel bad, because it has judgment built into it, like we’re doing something wrong or someone else is doing something wrong. What word can you replace with the word “should”?

Be creative.  It’s just language, after all, but it sure does matter how we use it.



It’s your life.  Enjoy the journey. And remember to bring love into everything you do.

Shelley Whizin
Shelley Whizin

Shelley Whizin is the founder and CEO of the Soul Diving Institute in Sherman Oaks, California. Her programs and teachings focus on the art and science of BEing human through explorative processes called Soul-Diving™.  She is a philanthropist, teacher, speaker, and innovative creator of programs that enhance and elevate and increase individuals’ Joy Factor© in daily life and living. She guides, coaches and teaches individuals how to bring love, honor, and dignity into everything they do, including cooking.

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